答主：Lauren Campbell

编译：伍壕 & 陈常然

Because there's more to it than that.

因为她们想要的不仅仅是“对我好”。

Let's say you like hamburgers. Someone asks you what you like on your hamburger and you say "I like onions on my hamburger". Alright, sounds good. But then that person gets you a burger and all it is, is an onion slapped between two hamburger buns. And now you're sitting here wondering, where's the hamburger meat, the lettuce, cheese, pickles, tomato, ketchup, and mustard?

就好比你爱吃汉堡。有人问你汉堡里要配什么，你说“我喜欢配点洋葱”。好吧，感觉不错。但过一会这家伙把那个汉堡递给你，两片面包，中间只有洋葱。你坐在那儿寻思。肉呢？生菜呢？起司番茄番茄酱芥末呢？？

But then that person gets mad at you and says "But you told me you like onions on your hamburger. So, I gave you onion and now you don't like my hamburger!"

然而这时，给你汉堡的家伙发飙了：“你说你喜欢洋葱，我给你洋葱，但你又不喜欢我的汉堡！”

Yes, a woman may want a guy who treats her well. But that doesn't mean that every guy who treats her well will just automatically get a date. If I dated every guy that treated me well I'd have dated every guy who was ever nice to me including my best friend.

的确，女人想要对她好的男人。但这不是说她会自动跟每个对她好的男人约会。要是这样，那我是不是也要跟我的死党约会？

A woman will probably also want to feel compatible with said guy, want to be attracted to him, want him to make her laugh, be supportive of her, have compatible goals, etc.

女人也想遇到和自己契合的他，渴望被他吸引，期盼他能带给自己欢笑，希望他能支持自己，并且两人对未来的期待要能够协调。

Lots and lots of guys will treat a woman well. It shouldn't be something rare or special to find a guy that treats you well. Because the opposite is a guy who treats you like crap. Who puts you down or hits you or abuses you or neglects you. That just makes the guy a bad catch no matter what. To be a good catch, it takes more than just meeting the bare minimum requirement of "well, I'll treat you nicely."

无数男人会对女人好。“好男人”既不罕见，也不特别。好男人的反义词是那些推倒你，揍你，虐待或冷漠待你的男人，不管怎样，这只定义了那些糟糕的人。要成为优秀的相处对象，就不能仅仅满足“好吧至少我对你挺好的”这种最低要求。

Would you rather have this

你是想要这个

Or would you rather have this

还是这个

Women operate along the same pattern. Yes, we may want a guy that treats us well. But that's not all we want. We want the full burger, not the onion. Don't be the onion.

女人的想法都一样。我们的确需要好男人，但不仅仅是好男人。我们要的是整个汉堡，不是洋葱。不要当那只洋葱。